People often create many social media memes about the Six Laws of Life. Here are the Six Laws of Life:
Six Laws of Life:
- Stop telling people your plans. — When you overshare, you hurt your progress. Keep things private and win.
- Know when to say no. — Strong people put their well-being before pleasing others. Practice saying ‘no’ more often.
- Make a decision and commit to it. — Too many people lack discipline and revert to their toxic patterns. Decide to change and stick to it.
- There is power in numbers. — Nobody has made it in life all by themselves. You need a team that uplifts and supports you. Stop being a lone wolf.
- Starve your distractions & feed your focus. — Focus on your goals instead of seeking cheap dopamine. You will achieve anything you ever wanted.
- Always provide value to others. — There is only one secret to success: making other people’s lives easier. In business and relationships, providing value will keep you as their priority.
These six laws of life serve as guidelines for you to establish better boundaries. We all have made big and small mistakes in one or all of these six laws of life.
How do you handle mistakes in your life? Can you trust your unconscious mind to remain calm, easy-going, and practice patience through self-kindness as you try new things? Are you expecting to make mistakes and following your contingency plan for things you will do to keep moving forward with your project?
Many of us tend to overreact, become overly critical, and play the blame game either within ourselves or towards the people we are in a relationship with, which often leads to the fight, flight, or fawn response.
“There is no failure, only feedback, no mistakes, only outcomes”
This is a quote from Clifford Wright when discussing the assumptions of NLP.
Survival mode is known as the fight, flight, freeze, or fawn response. When you are in survival mode, your body keeps score and is working on a positive intention or a secondary benefit to keep you safe. These benefits often serve to protect you like a warm, comfortable blanket keeps you safe through the storms of your life.
You always have a passionate desire to accomplish your goals and achieve closure. However, the accomplishments are based on a sense of self-improvement or proving someone is wrong. This leads you to feel stress and become overwhelmed. Your thinking is more about being obsessive with expecting the fears to happen.
What is expected will be realized by your unconscious mind, where your behaviors match the fear and overwhelm.
You may start to gaslight situations or people around you. Simply put, your behaviors and your thoughts just make it difficult for success to happen. You start to dissociate and only focus on what you are already good at. You start to resent help from others.
You just forget your goal completely. The cycle of the big dip in your self-esteem starts to happen in a loop where there are no outcomes, no goals, and you’re just doing things to avoid the risks. This is often called being risk-averse. You are also tired, exhausted, and you may just feel like an idiot. Your attitude is like it is not worth doing because nothing is working. So, you may just give up.
Why Do People Find Weight Loss Difficult? (Hint: Does it having anything to do with exactly what we’re talking about?)
Many of our clients tell us a story of their previous attempts to lose weight that goes like this:
Initially, they’d be brimming with excitement and motivation, enthusiastically sharing their weight loss goals with friends and family. However, as the weeks passed, they’d encounter obstacles like irresistible cravings for their favorite junk food, or skipping the gym due to an overloaded work schedule. Gradually, they’d start rationalizing these pitfalls as inescapable realities, even persuading others that such hurdles were too formidable to conquer.
Resistance to advice or assistance from those around them would start creeping in. A gentle suggestion from a friend for a healthier meal choice might be met with a snap. Instead of focusing on developing healthier habits, they’d start reverting to tasks they were already good at, like meticulously organizing their schedules without including any time for physical activities.
Their initial goal of weight loss would slowly fade into the background, replaced by a resigned acceptance of their current lifestyle. A concurrent dip in self-esteem would take place as they perceived no progress or measurable outcomes towards their initial goal. They’d start sidestepping any attempts at new fitness plans or diets to avoid the potential risk of failure. This avoidance behavior would lead to a stagnation in their progress.
Constant fatigue would settle in, along with intensifying negative self-talk. They’d start feeling incompetent for even trying to change in the first place. With the conviction that their efforts were futile and the belief that nothing was worth trying anymore, they would eventually abandon their weight loss goal entirely.
How Does Hypnosis Help You Lose Weight?
With hypnosis and the programs at Southeast Hypnosis, our clients are often excited with their results. They apply the things we’re talking about in this blog post because it’s what we teach in our programs, and they report how the pounds start falling off because they’re able to rewrite their story about success and failure, their story about feedback, and their patterns related to food and exercise.
For instance, they learn to see setbacks not as permanent failures, but as temporary obstacles providing valuable feedback. This shift in perception, facilitated by our hypnosis programs, empowers them to overcome the challenges rather than surrender to them. They start to embrace their cravings as signals to make healthier choices, instead of perceiving them as insurmountable hurdles.
Our clients also discover the ability to say ‘no’ to unhealthy foods, deriving more pleasure from foods that nourish their bodies. Hypnosis helps them rewrite their narratives around food, reframing it from an emotional comfort to a source of physical nourishment.
Moreover, they change their patterns related to exercise. Where previously gym sessions might have felt like an insurmountable chore, hypnosis helps them to see exercise as an enjoyable activity, an opportunity to take care of their bodies.
Over time, these small changes in thought patterns lead to a significant transformation in their behavior and body weight. But more importantly, our clients report an increase in self-esteem and self-belief, and the rediscovery of their ability to take control of their lives.
Indeed, the most significant success isn’t just the pounds they shed but the empowering beliefs and habits they gain, which remain with them for life. That’s the true power of hypnosis and our programs at Southeast Hypnosis – it’s not just about weight loss, it’s about life transformation.
7 Habits that Fuel the Disappointment or Survival Pattern
For review, here is a quick 1-2-3 list for you:
- A passionate desire for accomplishment with a sense to improve oneself, where your ego is in the game of proving yourself.
- Feelings of Anxiety & Overwhelm, Stress and Overwhelm
- Obsessive with the fear of not having it. What is expected is realized. “I don’t want the fears to happen.”
- Distract and lose focus. Start focusing on what you are already good at.
- Start to resent the help.
- Forget the goal completely. You just give up and just forget it. Have low self-esteem, exhausted, too tired to do anything. Have a self-esteem crisis.
- Avoidance behaviors, survival mode, no outcome, risk aversion.
Closing Remarks on Change
“The first step of change is to recognize what is happening”
This is a quote from a fantastic healer, Virginia Satir
Change is change. Adapt to change and be in a good emotional resource state to do the work for your change.
“Can you see when fear is a habit instead of reacting to reality? Can you see when fear is negative future pacing instead of planning and learning? Can you step out of your fear? Do you have past arbitrary limits that you experience as real or absolutes that, upon reflection, are purely false and habits? How do you want your habits to be inside? What do you want to assume? What must happen to make those assumptions true?”
Scott McFall
References:
- Scott McFall: www.hypnosisconnection.com
- The Master Hypnotist Society: www.masterhypnotistsociety.com
- The New People Making by Virginia Satir
- Basic Techniques Book II by Clifford Wright”
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